I’m Melia Dicker, a Certified Professional Coach for adults with ADHD. I’ll help you manage your life in a way that works for your brain and be kind to yourself no matter what.
Virtual ADHD Coaching for Adults
I meet with clients throughout the U.S. and abroad through one-on-one video conferencing sessions. Wherever you can find a quiet space and a strong Internet connection, I can coach you.
My Approach
Do you often…
feel stuck in anxiety, stress, and/or overwhelm
compare yourself to others and feel ashamed that you can’t do what they do
judge and criticize yourself for mistakes, shortcomings, and not living up to what you believe you’re capable of
have trouble starting and finishing tasks and projects
procrastinate, then beat yourself up for wasting time
feel like you’re failing at everything and disappointing the people in your life
work yourself into burnout and feel as if you can’t rest or play until everything is done
?
If this sounds like you, you are not alone.
I know you, and I feel for you, because I am you.
We are adults with ADHD, trying to navigate a neurotypical world with neurodivergent brains. When we are struggling and suffering, we don’t need judgment and shame. We need compassion and the right kind of support.
How ADHD Coaching Can Help
As your coach, I …
create a welcoming, non-judgmental space for you to put aside everything else and focus on your personal growth
highlight the challenges and strengths of the ADHD brain
ask targeted questions grounded in my experience and training, surfacing what you really want out of your life
help you see the stories you’re telling yourself that create self-judgment, roadblocks, and stress
teach you to manage your thoughts and emotions so you can create the results you want
send you support resources tailored to what you’re working on
guide you in designing an ADHD-friendly life that works for you
As my client, you …
show up believing that you can make changes in your life, ready to talk through your challenges and take the steps to create the results you want.
are willing to experiment with the inner (thoughts & emotions) and outer (systems & supports) strategies to discover your custom blend of ADHD supports that work for you.
will persist through the ups and downs of learning to manage your ADHD, and learn to celebrate every little win along the way.
External ADHD Supports
Starting with your most pressing goals, I’ll coach you through the process of building the supports that help you accomplish them.
ADHD coaching can help you build systems and habits to:
manage your time
set and work toward goals
plan, schedule, and execute tasks, including the ones that bore you
declutter and organize your space to work for you
take care of yourself and make time for rest and play
Internal ADHD Supports
Along with finding the external supports that work for you, you’ll start rewriting the stories you’ve told about yourself so many times that you mistake them for the truth.
You’ll replace old narratives of failure and worthlessness with a growth mindset and unconditional self-compassion. You’ll grow to recognize your inherent value regardless of anything you do or achieve.
ADHD coaching can help with common inner obstacles such as:
negative self-image, perfectionism, and impostor syndrome
emotional dysregulation
cognitive distortions, including catastrophizing, mind-reading, future telling, overgeneralizing
self-sabotage when things are starting to improve
overwhelm and feeling perpetually behind
building healthy relationships with others
If you’re ready to do the work,
the messy but invaluable work of learning to live as your full and authentic self,
I would love to coach you.
— What Clients Say —
“Working on a game plan together to tackle my week has been awesome! I feel like I'm finally beginning to understand how my brain works.”
About the Rising Spiral
“Have I evolved?”
This is the question I ask myself when I run into the same kinds of obstacles again and again — procrastination, perfectionism, self-doubt and self-criticism (shall I go on?). I wonder, have I advanced at all in terms of the same challenges that I had years, even decades ago?
The spiral curriculum says yes.
This learning model developed by psychologist Jerome Bruner says that we understand a concept in a basic way when we first encounter it, and each subsequent time we deepen our understanding. Imagine your starting point beginning from the ground and spiraling upward, each loop circling above the one beneath it.
The lesson?
If you show up and do the work to evolve, it’s impossible for you to be stuck in the same problems in the same way. Your previous experiences have moved you higher on the learning spiral.
We are imperfect humans who are constantly evolving.
We will encounter recurring challenges and conflicts over our lifetimes because we are human, but we can learn to respond to them in ways that serve us. At any moment, instead of focusing on how far we still aspire to rise on our own personal learning spiral, we can appreciate how far we’ve come from where we started.
Look for evidence of how you’ve evolved.
When you encounter a recurring obstacle once again and notice yourself responding in way that serves you better — with more calm, compassion and perspective — you know that you’ve leveled up on your learning spiral. Celebrate each bit of progress, and you’ll build morale and momentum to keep going.